Blog Endings

Hi Everyone,

I know it has been awhile since I have posted. I didn’t want to detract from the message or sentiments in this blog with my life changes, but life does change and enough people have contacted me in my new situation to realize I might as well put it here so you can follow the husband and I’s further adventures.

A typical look the two of us together when he transitioned.

Like I said in my first post on this site “BEGINNINGS”, I am transgender myself. I didn’t feel I could come out though, that I would never reach where I would consider an acceptable point in transition.  Well… as of March 13, 2018 I did come out and I began my transition. It was that or suicide. Since then I have definitely become more feminine, I have lost more than 115lbs and I am about halfway through my own transition.

How I looked when posting here late 2017/early 2018

How I looked in Late August/Early September 2019 after a little over a year of transition (no filters, just good sunlight).

That doesn’t take away anything from this blog though. I was presenting and living as a man and I still feel this is all valid. However, if you want to see my actual personal journal, just go to https://www.agirlushouldknow.com. I did have a transition only blog but hated doubling up with my personal so it got collapsed into my personal blog. I feel my personal blog is better anyways. It has the whole story, not just snippets of my transition.

This is from a little earlier in my transition. We are still together and still happy.

I welcome all of you over at my new blog. There you will see both hubby and I as we transition back into a weirdly straight looking relationship (but we are both trans so that is the furthest from straight you can get). I will still get any notifications of comments sent here, so please feel free to contact me.

Even though this is officially wrapping up this blog, I still can’t thank you all enough for everything over the past 7 years. The support has been tremendous, the experiences are life changing and I am so very proud of this blog, the people and the things that happened. I hope you will join me on my own journey, and if you don’t, I hope you have a great life, thank you for everything. I truly mean that from my soul.

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Published and the Future!

Hey everyone, it finally happened they published our book. I think it is a pretty cool little thing, basically Wolsey and I’s takedown of the selected posts. It was a nice way to package up the first phase of his transition.

So here is the official press briefing: AGPRFINAL

It is being released on most digital services and hardcopies are coming out. I will give an update when and where the hardcopies will be. Here is the amazon link (just look up Accidentally Gay on the other digital distributions if you have a different provider).

I want to thank everyone for this process. All I hope for the book is to give transitioning people and their partners the hope that it isn’t over for their relationship, no matter what anyone tries to tell them.

Like I have told you all earlier, I don’t post here much anymore, there have been a bunch of HUGE changes and working through them (Wolsey and I are both still together and madly in love). When it is time I will tell everyone about the changes and keep you updated.

Until then, take care.

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Bye Bye DoD

It has been awhile since we talked and I figured I would catch you all up on at least part of our life. Things have been incredibly busy. The hubby is incredibly happy that he no longer works for the DoD, especially after he filed harassment claim and not only did they not do anything to that horrible manager, they rewarded her with a position she has been wanting.

Well fast forward to a couple of weeks ago I quit the DoD as well. The toxicity is just ramping up even more and it is pretty horrific place to work if you are  not a white cisgendered heterosexual christian male. People are starting to parrot Trumpisms with no sense of irony or parody and it is incredibly horrible.

While it is the best paying job I have had and I did have a bit of an anxiety attack about no money, I quit anyways and now two weeks later I have absolutely no qualms about doing that. We were moving about 35 miles away anyways for the hubby’s new job and this is a clean break. I found myself hating my job every night, dreading going to work and I knew it wasn’t healthy. I feel so much better, it probably contributed to me losing 60 pounds since March (I knew I was quitting then).

My worries may not have been well founded. I already have a contingent offer from a local government auditing (at about the same pay rate) but we will have to see if it pans out. If it doesn’t I think I can go back to working for the ESD as well. However, wherever I go will have Washington state protection of LGBTQ people, and I think that is the safest.

We moved to Tacoma and I will go into a lot of detail about it later. We are going to the Tacoma Pride festival in July and I am excited about that. The city itself seems very accepting (even with the loud MAGA minority here) and I feel fairly secure for hubby. After all his security is all I care about.

So I just wanted to tell you all that the Department of Defense saga is now over. There are some funny details I will probably write about later, but for now I am just happy it is done. I don’t begrudge working there for the fact it paid for hubby’s surgeries (maybe not through medical but at least through a paycheck) and paid for my parents end of life situation/funeral. Plus if it works out when we cash out it will wipe all short term debt (i.e. non-student loan debt) leaving us with some breathing room.

Just thought I would give a quick update, more to come. 🙂

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Book Update

I had a couple of people email me asking about the book so I will give a quick update. The editing got pushed back until next week due to other publisher changes (other books not ours). So it is still a go, things are looking good and I am still excited.

I am even more excited because once it publishes it means Wolsey can submit his books he has been sitting on and get them published either there or self published (they are an urban fantasy series, not about our relationship).

I want to thank everyone for everything! I will keep you in the loop (and no, by no means is this going to be more then Starbucks money, I just think its cool I get to tell my story about Wolsey and I).

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Safer

First, let me be very very clear, passing or not passing as most people call it has no reflection on the person who is trans, and this isn’t meant as a judgment of that, rather if someone “passes” they are more likely to be safe and when it comes to Wolsey I just want him safe. No matter how you present though, just be proud of yourself!

My intrepid hubby has been at his new job for six weeks now and he loves it. During this time everyone has been treating him great. He gets along with everyone, and at no point in time has anyone clocked him as trans. Not ever a single doubt.Not through the interview process, working with multiple auditors and supervisors no one has assumed anything other then he is a cisgendered guy.

I think the only person that might have had a chance to know anything had worked with me about 8 years ago (for the same agency).Recently Wolsey told her that he was married to me, and she remembered me. I do think it is humorous though that she either forgot I had a wife back then, or maybe she thought I got divorced and remarried. Either way, evidently no one else can tell (I don’t think I could if I wasn’t already married to him).

I am reporting this back because this is the first real experience we have watched with him working with people closely and there isn’t even a blink about his appearance. It makes me feel calmer, it means he is safer then he was 2 years ago. He will be left alone unless he decides to reveal that information.

That is my big takeaway from this, my husband is safer now. I am grateful for that.

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Published in LGBTQ Queer Culture Journal MELK

Ok, I am a liar. I post that I am not posting anymore and what happens, here I am again. I am officially a published author, by a real publisher and not a vanity publish.

This isn’t the book deal we are waiting on, that is supposed to come out in the next month or two, this is a short writing that a Norwegian Queer Culture Journal that publishes quarterly.

They asked me to write a story about Wolsey and I. I was more than happy to.

https://www.melkmag.com/melk-no-6.html

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Thank you.

I cannot express how thankful I am to everyone past and present who has been so supportive here. Wolsey’s transition was the biggest thing to happen in my life up until now and with the lack of sources for husbands staying with their transitioning spouses I really only had the people here.

Thank you so very much for everything. I don’t think people can understand what it means to me both in the past and into the future.

I just wanted to explain to everyone that I probably won’t be posting here for a while. Right now, I only have long and angry rants about what I am watching happening nationally and in the overall world, and that isn’t what the blog is supposed to be about. It is about my life with Wolsey.

Wolsey is fully transitioned, happy and healthy. Life is good, and a lot of things have come up that have other focuses in our life (don’t worry we are definitely good with each other), that is demanding our full attention. 

I just wanted to explain for the time being why I wasn’t posting. I just don’t want to mix the overall purpose of the blog with me shouting into the void.

 I am still around, I definitely am here if anyone has any questions or wants to talk, I just don’t think I have any appropriate original content for this venue at the moment.

If you want to read my inane personal blog you can still find it at www.luckyslife.com, there will be links there to other gaming blogs and other subject matters.

Although there will be upcoming links and posting on when the book is coming out and if there are any more articles or public things I do related to this.

Once again though, I am here always and anyone needs anything whether publicly or privately you can reach me through here. I want to help with my story and with anything I can give to the community.


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