Well I have been at my current job for a year. For that entire year my coworkers have kept asking me why don’t I put pictures up. I explained because I was on probation, I didn’t want to commit to anything until that had passed and I was permanent.
The year is up and almost immediately everyone kept asking. I know part of the reason is I am fairly well liked by most people there and they want me to feel at home. Sadly this is a new experience, I have worked out of my car for the last 8 years (and I still wish I was doing that) so having a space to put up pictures is awkward for me.
The other reason I know they wanted me to put up pictures was to see Jello. They know Jello is trans, they have publicly (with a few exceptions) been really supportive. Part of me is sure they want to see what Jello looked like before.
Now, Jello and I have talked. I would never post a picture of him from before the transition if it bothered him. However, we were married for 21 years before the transition and he didn’t feel it was right or appropriate to erase the occurrences before then (other people feel differently, so by no means is this a judgment on you if you don’t like pictures before transition).
So I covered both walls with pictures of us. I didn’t put up anything too girly from Jello (although I do have a sweet sweet collection of cheesecake photos of him that he lets me have). The picture below is one of my cube walls:
I put the pictures up and teleworked the next day. I have been told by my cube mate that the day I was home teleworking, pretty much every single person in the office (30 people or so) came over and looked through all three walls of pictures.
The positive part of me is pleased that so many people are interested (however, I know in an office situation that is a double edged sword). However, evidently I have a much larger negative view and am sure the majority of them wanted to see pics of Jello before the transition (the only photo they got to see that probably was “girly” was the one with the both of us dressed as faeries).
I am sad that people are like that. I know it is a natural reaction, but if they wanted to see pictures of Jello they should just ask me up front. It always feels a little creepy with things like that.
I do have more pictures I will bring in slowly, I am hoping to bring in a lot more recent photos of jello (we have absolutely no real photos, since we are a computerized household with digital options). I will need to go through some new photos and send them to Walgreens.